CONFESSIONS OF A MILITARY WIFE | MILITARY SPOUSE Q&A 5

What can I bring for the girls he's gonna have a big impact on their life. Whether we move or not. That first I was like wow like there's no place in the States. Because you know here in Japan is very different but I was like there's no place in the States. That we can move to like. Nothing in the States popped up for him so we're not okay we're gonna go to Japan like. I said the difference for me is being a military brat it's just.

All like went order. That makes any sense like I'm here three years buy new place military why I'm thinking is there a way around. I go there what can. I do for my kids. How can this as hold. Me as possible for them and will. It be safe for all of us you know II mean. I think the thinking process is what's really different the other parts of that is the military other service members so. They tell you got to go somewhere. You gotta go.

You got no choice but to go but the thief press like. I said as far as just like. What can what I can do for my kids. While I'm here. I thought this video is already really lost but I just wanted to quickly like give out. Some tips thoughts advice. Whatever being a military spouse so. I feel like the main thing when. It does come to being a military spouse is your flexibility literally like. I just said the military own. These people so. You got no choice but to be flexible.

This literally just popped in my head but one very important thing you have to remember. That women are not only military spouses there are men. That are military spouses Jamie. You become you are a military spouse. I feel like. You they really have to have the most open mind a surprising you Cuzco was. I was a little baby and didn't little baby so. I was like so. What am I gonna do up there right like. What am I gonna do with my kids like don't speak Japanese but then like. I said that's not good to be able to minded okay change.

All those negative thoughts into positive thoughts. This is what we're gonna do. This is what I'm gonna do I'm out there I'm gonna take my kids here younger together and now. That we're here in Japan literally I'm telling y'all I'm so happy not sure. That was a really good example but I just feel like. You were in letters bus. You have to be very open also who also. This is a really good thing so and this is a penny to work on but like.

I said in that previous question there are places out here. That was really help. You with your career or help. You with school. You wanna go back to school wish. Me insiders are definitely use your resources. That they have here on base literally in my last and final tip. Because I already known. This video as long. Any toy you are. Because you have no choice but to be there for 3 or 4 years. I know before. We came out here.

We were told to definite make the best we're here. We definitely plan on doing so. Whether you're stateside. Whether you're in a foreign country mate alright guys. That is it for today's video. I have no idea. What I'm doing with my hand but that's it for today. I really hope. You guys enjoyed. This video those have actually interested in seeing a military spouse video. It like you guys enjoy. It please don't forget to Like and subscribe my social media links are down below for you guys. I will see you guys in my next video bye guys.

CONFESSIONS OF A MILITARY WIFE | MILITARY SPOUSE Q&A 4

They have programs helping with your career. They do honestly. I completely forget. What it's called. I really do but yes. What are some pros and cons about being a military wife the pros. I think a pro is a you know. You do move sorry too far place like. This you get to see. These places. You only need like not. Everyone can say.

That they lived in Japan. I know that there's Finnish military bases in Europe there's multi radius everywhere but I think that's a pro is that you do get to see. These beautiful places with your family your enemy a con. I would say. I don't know. This is a con but like so I'm going to go back so the question was. She had a military wife friends the answer is knowing this is why my momma thinks. I was a military brat so my mom was a military way my mom. She didn't have a lot of friends. Now I'm not saying my mom but my mom always lived by.

This quote I thought it's so true. One gossips. Than a military wife and for that reason. I don't have military wife friend staff I'm a military wife person does. That mean I gossip absolutely not. I don't I'm not think every military wife does I'm not but there are those military wives. That literally. All they do is gossip other people why because their stay at home mom. They have nothing better to do so. They get together in their little groups. They talk about all of their wives and they're miserable not kidding kidding but I'm not. I would say. That that is a con.

That there are also going on that whole military web think there are like military wives. That like live through their husbands rank and I can't stand those people so. If their husband is like the chief or an officer or and you know Master Chief or something like. That their wives think. That they're a chief aren't officer or a master chief as well and I can't. I really can't and I think that's the main reason why you don't like. I don't go out there and look for friends or I don't like put myself out there as far as. I like involving myself in and you these groups already think.

That it's just. Because some people they're nice to your face and they solve. All this behind your back but that's that's not. Even a military that's people in general like I've seen. Some people were like I'll talk to them and they'll just come out and spill. All this tea about other people and I'm like dang cries out. How your day was like hey how's the overall experience the difference between being a military daughter and a military wife. I thought oh my god. Even wrote this back to her I thought. This was literally such a good question so growing up. I was just like.

This is just a norm. You got to eat like. I would get so. Any place that I'm like well I'm just I'm gonna be leaving in two years anyway so. Whatever they're growing up like. I went just go so she's like in middle school and high school. I never really got close to anybody just. Because I was gonna be leaving that far. I went to Seattle. That I knew. That that was our last duty station is just. Because my brother and I were in high school and my parents didn't want to do.

Any more moving that's where I'm at home boy it's a big difference. Though like. I said growing up. It just nothing ever clicked to me like oh. I have to do. This this this or you know. I don't know. That makes any sense. Whereas being a military wife. I need to take in consideration my kids unique Bryn since. He found out. He had orders to Japan. We started thinking okay like. What can I do for the girls out there or traveling here.

CONFESSIONS OF A MILITARY WIFE | MILITARY SPOUSE Q&A 3

You know one of Europe like the point is when you're on the plane. That you do miss a lot of things I've got called oh yeah like. I said I'm not sure. I want to use the word advance but it is very different being a military family versus being a civilian. You like the benefits. You receive as a military to pet a mean yeah light comes in handy. You have a lot of military wife friends no. I don't and no. Me it's a person like. I just not like the type to actually like. I don't even know like I'm just not like hey let's be friends it's like I'm a fine by myself I'm by myself like.

That got out there that's my best friend they're my best friends those two little ones. I don't know like I'm fine with just having acquaintances but as far as friends. I don't have a lot of military my friends our neighbors two doors down Sharon and Justin. You guys had seen them in our recent video she's not the spouse she's the military member so. I guess that that access. When she's my friend. I said as far as wives. I don't have. I don't have. Any military boyfriends. All of my friends here they're. All in the mid they're. All in the Navy I'm in Port Hueneme.

I only had two military oh two three two and a half three. Whatever that you came to new friends um three. I need three military boyfriends and two of them. I kicked it with them daily not a daily daily. What is the hardest part of the military life. I think it kind of said. This in the previous question but I feel like the hardest part in two deployments uh deployments and actually. Because I just answered. This but that and also like constantly moving like. I said it's hard. When you've unpacked. Everything you you fixed your house the way.

You wanted to and you know. You do meet. Some really good people and then literally like. You gotta you gotta go. You know you own military. Where I've stuff no my time no. I do not go Therese night lavish. Because he's not into. That like he does not like I'm proud name. You CV or like. He doesn't have loves. That like say I'm gonna need to see. If you're like so. You know people put stickers on their cars no he's definitely not. That and I think because of that I'm not like. Either but it's okay right last one do. You support your spouse as a member of the military absolutely and I will 100% other he was in the military are not having I was supportive. Either way stuff but I'm gonna go into the questions. That you guys have asked.

Me next what this one is like. I said from. You guys do. You all have a special thing that you do as a family my dad's military as well and since. We were mostly away from family. We always make sure to schedule movie night and dinner every other week just to check in with. Each other love your content well thank you uh do. We have a special thing that we do together right now our special thing is kind of you and your family like. We have a movie night every single week which do the Friday or Saturday night. If it's not the movie dear. We definitely do have. You here at the house oh she's laughing you sound like. She was crying anyway adjusting to his life in schedule having kids on your hubby's away moving from place to place do.

They have programs to help. You with your career. What are some pros and cons about being a military wife I'd love to hear. More see it just to his life on schedule. That was I don't know. I don't know. I want to say hard just. Because you guys didn't know. I could just said previously in the foot every. I grew up in military about my dad was in the name for 20 years. All of this it's not new to me so as far as. It Justin to the left salad wasn't hard. I think the only thing that made. It hard was our kids in general changes. Everything for your life. You and me so having the girls during this whole thing kind of mean to her just. Because we know.

We have to constantly move around and I think. If they I'm like happy about right now is that we're moving around like. While they're young yeah cuz like they're not in school right now so movie is an ass heart but I don't know just their dad being away from them you know during deployment stuff like. That makes it fun her back to your question as far as of adjusting to his life and schedule. It was personal for me at least having kids. While your hubby's away. That part is really hard like. It you know like. I said early it's just hard. Because he does miss milestones in their life here uni but we don't. He comes back. You makes up for it so. 

CONFESSIONS OF A MILITARY WIFE | MILITARY SPOUSE Q&A 2

It in front of all of us but in the hotel room. You know defeat. Anything sex is like okay like you're right and I was like. I walked it in like. Everybody was sitting there and I was like. I was going on like why are. We all in the same room right now but I was like said. This little thing he started crying and I was like oh my god oh my god it's not. Because I thought he's happy and then. You pulled out the ring he got on one knee and he asked. Me and I'm scooting every mother crying okay next. You just get brave. We got married in Arizona in a courthouse at first. I totally was like oh my god like. I want a wedding but in that very moment.

I was like I'm just already like I'm just so ready to be his wife. You need me and he was. All ready to be my husband so we're like right let's go do. We got married a little like. Because that in March will be two years. That we'll be married on our fifth year anniversary. We are planning to well. I guess I'm planning but you know he'll be done for the right to have a bein an actual wedding ceremony. How old were. You two you got married uh funny e320 know could. You I believe. You got married in 2015 so yes. We were 22 the month after. He I was 22 the month after. That he had turned 21 right March yeah 21. That sounds so stupid the month after.

We got married. He turned 22 there. We go oh no a Viking did. He wear his uniform on his wedding day no. He did not start reading these questions so funny. I just not that person like he's like. We go somewhere he's not the person to wear his uniform um. Where are you and your spouse currently stationed. We are stationed and you could speak Japan excellent do. You live off-base yes. How long were. You married. You had to go through your first separation. You were okay so by separation I'm assuming it means appointment I'm just assuming but his first appointment. We weren't married. We got married in March. He had left for deployment August so. We were only married for April May June July oh so five months.

We really went for five months and he had to leave on a second. What is your favorite base so far probably. This one before. This rescission of Port Hueneme doesn't our e-base. One who's alright but I feel like. This is I love. This face like. You here in Japan. You see your spouse looks good in his uniform yes. I do which I guess I'll Allah. I think Cyrus it's so handsome. You thank you literally the cutest thing like. When you'd be coming home from lunch I'm like literally. You guys I don't know. I just think he's gonna say. Anything so cute. I literally love him in the white uniform. I have no idea. What that woman's call. It but if you're the Navy other way. You did for my others I don't know what it's called bye thank you but I mean just uniform. You wear Celia think he's I think.

He is so fine okay do. You feed military life is more advanced. Than civilian life. I don't know. I want to say advanced but I will say. That it is very different. You know the militant like. I don't know like an everyday job. I feel like. If you're sick. You could call. It sick but in the military. You just can't block people to understand especially. When you're in the military the military literally owns. You cannot do. This this this without having to report back yeah. I don't know. That makes sense but I just know things are a little different being a military family versus being a regular. I don't know how. Many other branches but in the Navy you're on a duty station for three years you're out of place for three years and I know three years seems like a long time but it's really not. It is very short so. You get to a place. You impact you start to get cozy. You know you start to meet other people and then right. You gotta pack a Bentley and then.

What also comes into play is to put which I hate deployments. I said I'm not sure about any other branches but in the Navy. They are on deployment for six or seven months and again six seven months seems like over the short time but it's not. I still love. It especially. You have kids. That part is always hard it's just. Because I mean yeah a FaceTime Yaya sky-bird ever but it's not the same as actually physically being there like. What Cyrus left unemployment oh no sorry. I just hit my my. He was up he left of employment um in September and I know. That's because. I had just had melona so. I had Milano literally like a week later. He had to leave so. He would face have. All the time but he would. He missed a lot of the big things

CONFESSIONS OF A MILITARY WIFE | MILITARY SPOUSE Q&A 1

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All of our stuff so for now I'm just gonna be seeing this background until. Everything in here I'm so excited to show. You guys the wallpaper. That I picked out. I guess I was gonna talk with the basics. If you're new. You do not know my husband is in the military. He is in the Navy he's a CV. You guys don't know what a CD is cuz a lot of people doubt. He is a builder in the Navy so here's the Navy the Navy is full of sailors everybody's a sailor in the Navy then here's the Seabees 50 bees are like.

This part of the Navy so yes. He joined right out of high school. This is our will his earn duty station as a married couple. Than is our second ahh the first. One is how did. You in your stops meets. I remember in high school. We were 16 we met we've been together ever since. We are 24 I can't. Even say we but he's 23 and I'm 24 he's heard. Us 24 in April. Whatever where are. You and your spouse originally from so.

This question like for me just. Because I have a military brat well. I guess my dad was in the Navy too so. We had to move around a lot but I just tell people. That from Seattle just cuz. That was like our last duty station so I'm from Seattle. He is from Marina Valley. How did you feel about him joining the military. All for it I actually he's gonna watch. This video and be like. Whatever but I like pitched the idea to him my dad was in the military and my brothers in the Navy. I come from a big Navy family. I wouldn't think about I think every service member. You know my family's in the Navy. I don't think.

We have any other branch anyway so yeah. I kind of like pitch the idea to him and he thought about it and he was like ok. You know yeah we're gonna do. It and then. He had gone back and forth with the thought I've toured the Navy. You want to do. It then he didn't. He didn't Bellomo and then. You know obviously. He came to the collision. That he was gonna be the name so next. Where does your spouse go to basic training he went to basic training in Great Lakes as. I understand right now. This that's the only place.

They have busy training I know back in the day. I think they actually had. It in San Diego that's where my dad went to basic training but as of right now as. I understand it's only engraving switches in Illinois fetish Mouse ever been employed yes. He has since we've been together. He has been deployed twice. He had like a little maid deployment like a little debt in Kentucky but as far as. That big deployments he's been unemployment twice his first deployment was to Cambodia then the second. One was to simplemente Island which is just like a little island off California okay the next. One is how long have.

You been a military wife. I have been a military wife for almost two years. Now in March we'll be married for two years so in July. We will be together like to get there for eight years did. You marry him before or after. He joined we got married after. He joined I think. We got married. He was in for like three and a half years no four. I think I forget. Something along those lines yes. How did your husband propose so. We were in Vegas with. You proposed and I was like. I had been like hinting to him like hey. I tried to make my plate click. I have been hinted to him like. You know it's a time. I truly believe. We should be married.

I knew our trip to going to the Vegas sevens of the Vegas of rugby sevens was coming up and I was like. I just think it'd be so cool like. You proposed in front of the Bellagio like. One of the fat and the water is going up and stuff like. That I just thought it'd be really cool so his initial plan was. That he was gonna propose to me in front of the Bellagio but my faith my family had like told him you should totally do.